well, I've been arguing with this person of the comments page of somebody. The poor guy doesn't know that the probability of him succeeding in arguing me down is kinda very small. Anyway, we got into a whole thing about trust.

Here is the thing.....I don't really trust. I actually don't completely trust anyone except myself. And the reason is very simple. I know what I am thinking. I am also aware that nobody else knows what I am thinking. Unless, of course, I allow them to, like voicing my thoughts or blogging or making a face. Another thing I am aware of is that the same thing is true for every other human being in the world.

The fact is that nobody ever knows exactly what another person is thinking unless there is complete honesty. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that humans are incapable of complete honesty. Its just that people don't practice it. This is true for even the most candid people. But i dont blame them because supplying every minute detail of a single thought is a tedious task.

But that isnt the main problem. the main problem is that people hide things. People lie, and cheat, and steal and then lie again. How can I trust that?

How do I live my life with close to no trust? All it is is awareness and calculated risk. Be aware of your surroundings, the enviorment, your peers. Also be aware of the potential of your surroundings, plans, people. Every situation has the potential to go completely south. It is never impossible for your friend or own blood to stab you in the back, or the brakes on your car to fault or the lady at starbucks putting something in your drink.

No, not paranoid, just aware that anything actually CAN happen. (thats about as cliche as it gets.) just be prepared. Or in a position where damage controll can be carried out easily.  


sorry if its not as detailed as it should be. im trying to avoid huge paragraphs. lol. so questions are welcome

...and here is what ive been thinkin of lately. FRIENDS. have you ever noticed that if you take one letter out of the word FRIEND (the R) the word that you end up with is FIEND. the word FIEND means someone who is extremely wicked or cruel. i think its amazing how drastically the meaning of a word can change if one letter is added or removed, especially in this case.

why i brought this up? because that drastic change doesnt only apply to words. lets take a look at actual friendships and pretend that the movement of the letter 'R' is an event or situation. you might put all of your trust and pour all your secrets into a person and here comes some idiot who might tell a vicious lie. the movement occurs and 'R' is removed and the person that youve trusted betrays you. Or, someone that you hate with all your heart saves your life. a movement might occur. the 'R' is added and now you guys are friends.

whats my point? ive heard people say that they would never be friends with joe and that they could never hate jane. (sometimes i use random names to prove my points) A reason that they might say this is bcuz that person knows what kind of person he is and thinks he knows what kind of person joe or jane is. that knowledge of himself and those assumptions of joe and jane is what he uses to determine possible relationships with the two. however, what kind of people they are aren't nearly as important as they think. the things that determines the outcome of a relationship are not only the kind of people they are but the events that will join their lives in the future that nobody i know is sure of.

anything is possible when it come to people and relationships, and that isnt always a good thing. it could be completely amazing or it can totally suck, but my goal wasn't to scare people into stepping on eggshells with their friends thinkin that they will betray you at any moment, (though it might be the case for some unfortunate person) or to make nice with all your enimies (which might be benificial to some lucky person in the future). my goal was to let people know how flexible life and relationships can be and to give the advice to not freeze people in the place of 'friend' or 'fiend', for everyone has the potential to become more in a person's life. Sometimes you dont control the 'R', so focus on the things that you can control meaning yourself. actions, events and someone's nature all play a part here, in case you haven't noticed.

topics for the future: bonds, choices, life and death, etc, etc, etc....you know how m,y thoughts go off. lol.
if anyone has a topic that they would like to discuss, let me know and ill give you my opinion.
speaking of opinions.....

if anyone has something to say about my blogs, including this one, put up a comment and ill respond. i dont care if its harsh or if you dont agree bcuz its all about opinion. and N.A. will tell you how well i can argue. lol. anywhoo, thats how i want this to go. i wanna know how many people think like me and how many people dont and think im nuts. lol.

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well, this was a bit of a re-run, but i think its important so, whatevz. lol
-Faye